Relatedness

The relatedness among us is the capital of our heavenly bank account. When the capital is low, nothing gets done. When the capital is high, much can be accomplished. I want to have a "reality check" by asking 4 questions:

Q1. What would you experience when the capital is high? "I can count on you 100%." (inward one accord)
Communication is easy, smooth and effective, even when wrong words are used.
Fellowship is enjoyable, shining and life-giving.
I am free to share my feelings.
Confessing mistakes becomes spontaneous and sincere.
As a result, the saints are knit together and coordinated together.

Q2. What would you experience when the capital is low? Shaking hands over a fence (unity in form only).
I have to be careful about everything I say. (Communication is difficult.)
"Fellowship" becomes dry, surface-scratching, and reluctant.
I have to protect myself by hiding my feelings. I have to maintain my position.
Minimizing contact to avoid confrontation.
As a result, the saints are scattered.

Q3. What are the "deposits" that would raise the level of the capital? Philippians 4:5
Galatians 5:22
A good listener
Seeking mutual understanding
Apologizing sincerely when making mistakes
Supporting one another and appreciating one another

Q4. What are the "withdrawals" that would bring down the level of the capital? Lack of Philippians 4:5
Lack of Galatians 5:22 Ignoring others' feelings
Rigidly demanding and insisting
Reacting and over-reacting
Finding excuses or blaming others to defend self
Conditional love with string attached

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Building up the capital of relatedness takes time and effort. In fact, it takes God's divine nature and human virtues to build it up. It is a process of long-term accumulation. Shall we start making small "deposits" here and there? Shall we stay away from "withdrawals" at all cost?